Full on narcissism.
And you?
The faithful mirror holder no more.
Or, are you still holding up a charade for the sake of...?
Narcissistic adults wreak great damage on everyone in their orbit.
Children get it the worst because they have to hold up the mirror for mommy dearest far longer than their little arms can bear.
They eventually change to suit the task master.
And secrets?
Pure poison...it seeps into everything.
"She walks re-animated amongst the living...", you write.
Zombies love brains and she will devour what is left of not just your dignity but also that of your family, until no one is actually thinking: exactly what she wants.
Get out and take your children with you.